I think one of the reasons why dissimilar (or opposite) people are so drawn toward each other is because that's what makes each other so interesting--that's what makes you want to know more about the person and be involved in their life.

Knowing that person is "the one," I suppose, is still wanting to travel down the road hand in hand with that person even though you understand that it's because of these differences that will make things difficult. It's about pissing each other off and driving each other to the brink of insanity, but still wanting to keep trying, to reach an understanding if not a solution--it's the effort involved that makes a relationship. To me, a relationship isn't a noun--it's a verb, a word of action; a continual maintenance.

I guess it's comparable to living life--life is hard most of the time, but there are things in it (usually the small things) that make you want to keep living; that is why you're going to do what you can to continue in this world. There will be good times, there will be bad times, and things will always fluctuate for better or worse, but it doesn't change you wanting to be here. It's all of that that gives life meaning, just as it is all of that that gives your relationship meaning and value. Does that make sense? I don't know, maybe my analogy/explication is a little weird.

There are varying degrees of compatibility, but I feel that it's mainly the chemistry between two people that determine a relationship. I feel many separations in relationships happen because of the loss of chemistry over time, not compatibility. You can be amazingly compatible with each other, but if you lack the chemistry or the sexual attraction toward that person, it cannot be.

Finding the "right one" is comparable to planning your future and expecting it to turn out exactly how you envisioned it.

It simply doesn't happen that way--half the time, it's due to circumstances beyond your control.

You can't make an order, plan it all out to meticulous detail, and expect to find someone who reaches all your standards, having similar views, opinions, and interests--because what it comes down to in the end is chemistry, that certain attraction that you have for someone that you can't really explain the reason for. Whether or not he or she is the "right one" is based on how willing you are to fully invest yourself into that person, vice versa.

Ho hum. But what do I know?